Road in Retirement

Updates After my traumatic setback with deep brain stimulation (DBS) surgery in May 2023, I was giving all my friends, relatives, and prayer partners updates. All of that stopped gradually as my husband and I just got tired, but I’ll provide a summary here because I have had so many inquiries.  Home and Care First, we have been receiving consistent in-home care for about a year, which has allowed me to enjoy home comforts and activities and allowed Chris to work and find respite. I have basically one dedicated care provider and then a collection of them from another agency. They are all professionals but might as well be sisters because we get along so well. One of my greatest de-stressors throughout my youth, college, and married life has been to bake. My husband brags that I can look at a dessert picture in a magazine and make the item from scratch to taste and look exactly the same. That’s not true but let him go ahead and believe that. So baking continues and my care people hav...

Perspective For many of us retirement often involves more travel. With no work or family pressures, we dream of finally having the time to visit exotic places we have always dreamed of. My recent visit to a beautiful northern California coastal B&B could fit that description, but that trip was more of a victory lap after a year of disability hell. In all honesty, retirement travel hasn’t really been discussed much between my husband and me because of my limitations and because he is still working. Nonetheless, our thinking has been adjusted or one could say, updated.  Priorities My relationship with God through Jesus has helped me adjust my priorities. Mentally, I am doing OK, some battles with frustration due to my nagging inability to get around and communicate well. I might also suffer from loneliness at times, but not mental anguish; most of that simply comes from Chris 😊. The apostle Paul provides wonderful wisdom in 2 Corinthians chapters 4 and 5 on what’s a priority for...

The Last California Road Excerpt I have written four blogs on my “road” in California if you have been keeping up. This final patch of road in my retirement had a few more twists and turns, but ringing through this entire trip was a theme of peaceful rest. Jesus tells us in Matthew 11 to come to him when needing a reprieve from labors and burdens and he would give us rest; even a deep rest for the soul. That was this trip. Let’s get back on the road and catch that flight out of the Golden State.  Departure Via the Coastal Highway Our time for departure had come at the cove in Northern California, and we rose early packed a few things, and then had breakfast in our room overlooking the morning surf. The tide seemed slightly higher and the “never gets old” big blue Pacific was churning once again below us extending west from the rugged dark gray and brown rocky cliffs and mini-islands of granite and sandstone orphaned from the shore. We settled up, checked out, and left the lovely co...

I have written three California travel blogs: Embarking, Apple Town and In-Laws, and Twists and Turns. They are actually segments of my continuing winding road in retirement with disabilities. Take your sigh of relief now because we are leaving California and returning to the cold flatlands of North Dakota  . . . in two more blogs 😊! Seriously though, take a minute and just be still, realize there is a God, and read on.  We Made It! I continue my California road trip at the intersection of a twisting forest road and the famous coastal Highway 1 of what’s called the Coastal Franciscan Redwood Forest ecosystem. We sat at that intersection white-knuckled from the winding mountainous forest road; literally only a few blocks from what I will call here “the cove.” We made it! This had been my goal throughout my recovery from deep brain surgery; to get to this spot, to be still, know God’s presence, and rest. I was here. When my husband asked me what was one enjoyable or comforting ...

 A Road to the Boonies In my last blog, we were about ready to leave Apple Town for our northern California coast B&B. It was a Sunday, our third day in the sunshine state and we headed north to eventually swing a left toward the coast and Elk, CA. Chris had this notion that it was a 3.25-hour drive from our San Fran area hotel up to our B&B. It was all of that just to the road of twists and turns. California has mountains that run parallel to its length; with much of the entire length of the state having a range that butts right up to the coast. So go west my friend go west to the Pacific, yes, but before you hit the ocean in many CA locations you must first cross or cut through that last western mountain range. Yes, we had a scenic trouble-free freeway drive north on the 101 until we reached a town called Ukiah where we headed west toward the Pacific on the 253. We were headed into the coastal mountains toward a town called Boonville. That town should have been called “Th...

Cupertino Aka Apple Town In our last blog, we detailed how our fears of air travel from Grand Forks to California were assuaged by trust in God and by what seemed to us to be the help of near angel-like people. We left off with our landing in San Francisco. Our first couple of days in California were spent in the Cupertino area where Apple has a corporate office called Apple Park or Apple Campus 2. We both carry iPhones in our pockets and sport Apple watches on our wrists, so it was cool to be in “Apple Town.” This is a beautiful area with few bugs (except in the phones), perpetually sunny skies, an amazing array of bush and flower types, warm temperatures year-round, and swarming Teslas.  Time One reason we were in Cupertino was that it had a solid and reasonable handicapped-accessible hotel close to our son’s in-laws who we promised to visit if we ever were in the area. Well, we were only a few miles from them so we arranged to meet them on a Saturday evening. Let me just say “di...